Wednesday, February 20, 2013


The other day, I was checking in with a teenager and their family. This particular family I have been working with for years! The boy's Grandma and I have gone through many changes over the years with her grand kids. I feel blessed to be a part of their support, and fortunate to build healthy interpersonal relationships with their family and all of their moving parts. With that said, I met someone that I have never seen in their house the other day. This person was Auntie B, 91 years old, and 91 years filled with opinions. The first thing she said, as I was walking over to give Grandma my customary hug, "you have a white fella in your house"! Grandma, grand kids all began to chuckle. She then looked at me, with these unknown eyes, I could feel her questions, but no words were coming out of her mouth. The teenage boy, came over and gave me the hand shake, and whipped out the cards! I sat down on the couch, in between his two sisters, and across the the table from Auntie B. All of sudden I had a three year old and five year old jumping from my lap, and the other holding on to my back laughing. Grandma in the background yelling, don't beat up Uncle Tod, we still need him for another 10 years. The cards were dealt, I'm trying to hold my hand, balance kids, and hear how the teenage girls are dealing with boy problems. In the mean time, Auntie B, opens her mouth and sneezes. Bless you's filled the room, but mine was first. She looked at me, and said, "whatcha you say"? I reported, bless you mam. She then called for me to come over. Everyone stopped playing rummy, and it was so quiet. I had two put the kids down, get up, and wiggle my way over to the other side of table where Auntie B, was sitting in the recliner. I approached her, she then said to come closer. I bent down, and she replied, "mister, there outta be something wrong with you, but I can't figure it out, you are the first white person, that I wanna believe is genuine"! Grandma came over and said, "Auntie B, he fooled me too, years ago, but God told me if he could play rummy, he was real"! We played three games of rummy, I of course did not win one! Life is about helping others, know matter what race, color, age, or orientation. Rummy may just be a game to some, but in this case rummy was the thread to three generations of watching a family grow. Stay in your health, stay in the moment.

Monday, February 18, 2013


Moons ago, when I heard the word grateful, it was associated with my beloved Grateful Dead concerts. Now, in the moment, over the last 13 years and change, grateful has a new meaning for this writer. I am grateful for life, my journey through each thought, each day, outcomes that help me stay in the moment! Being grateful for the little things, not the big things. Understanding that life is worth something, that is not associated with revenue or how much things cost! Self can learn how to appreciate things when you are balanced from the inside to the outside. Be grateful for who you are and what you are, regardless of others opinions. Challenge yourself each day to be grateful for what you are doing, and trying to do. For me, life is about helping others and having that opportunity to teach, support, ultimately finding your higher power. Grateful for having a higher power and allowing my self to believe there is positive energy in everyone, utilizing my faith in something that is bigger then self. When things happen for a reason, I am grateful for that reason what ever it may be. Having patience and slowing down my mind can only help self work through struggle. Sometimes life can be overwhelming when we focus to much on what we need to do instead of what we are doing right now, this second. You have grateful thoughts in your mind, but do you act upon them? Think about what you are grateful for and tell someone. Be humble, but honest. Pride is something that you work on through your life, with practice. I am grateful that people reach out to me, and blessed that people open up to me. Each day self can be grateful. Balance your thoughts, and use your positive energy to be grateful. Your higher power will guide you, don't resist, go with the positive energy. Fun is helping others achieve gratefulness. Stay in your health, stay in the moment.