Thursday, July 24, 2014
Though out the years it amazes this writer where I get the opportunity to run sessions in the most unique locations. A week ago, I was working with a teenager and we decided to go check out a huge sporting goods store. We began the session by walking through the exhibits and talking about the goals on his treatment plan. Walking around the store and working on new goals. We then went upstairs and saw the camping gear. We ended up in sitting down in this huge tent, where there was a checker board. The salesmen told us to check it out. There were lawn chairs in the tent (that big of a tent) and we decided to play checkers. People walking around us, and appeared to enjoy our checker game. Writer did win the game! Building rapport with a client is crucial in trying to help with implementing wellness and teaching how to stay in the moment. You can use, but, you can choose not to. Our discourse at this particular session was powerful and I could see that some walls were coming down. Talking, laughing and working on some life skills in a tent, in a sporting goods store, playing a child hood game of checkers, was a first for this writer. Sometimes as helpers we forget how important it is to just go with the flow. Stay in your health, stay in the moment.
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Nate is a opiate user. He gave this writer permission to share in this blog. Nate does not want to be seen as hero, but a addict who is working a program, our program. I got the referral from a hospital up north, in Minnesota. A young man who was rushed to the emergency room, he stopped breathing. This is an every day occurrence with opiate users, trying to ride the train with heron. You stop breathing, which can be a fatal experience. Nate was a typical teenager he reports. Healthy family, and for the most part a positive childhood. Red flags were not prevalent from his teenage years. Nate, went to college, and graduated with a Art degree. One night after work, Nate was turned on to heron at a art show with other peers. That was 4 years ago. Today Nate went through several out patient programs and two rehabs. Nate still chose to ride the heron train. Four months ago, Nate's family had to make the toughest decision in their life. They stopped enabling him. I met Nate at his hospital room, with his probation officer. He was facing 3 years hard time, if he tested positive one more time for opiates. I fervently believe that Nate, at that time, wanted to go to prison. He did not want to die, in his words. Nate had his first family intervention two weeks ago. Nate had his second and third family session last week. Nate is clean. Going on four months and change. His probation officer is amazed at his dedication and work ethic. Nate's sister asked him during our last family session what is different about this program then the others? Nate replied, I am tired of covering up everything, lying, stealing, telling you what you want to hear. My body is aching, my mind is lost. Tod brings a unique approach to treatment. He does not judge me, make me feel like crap or tell me what I want to hear. He tells me the truth. I tried to spin things with him, and he saw right through me. But, he let me learn how to face my demons and not focus on my past. Tod says he knows I can buy the ticket for that train. I can also decide not to buy that ticket for the train for that moment. I then take my next thought and think of positive things in my life right now.... The family all broke down in tears after hearing Nates explanation. I looked at the Grandma, then the mom, dad, sister, brother in law and back at Nate. Healing takes time. I am not sure what will happen to Nate and his family. I do know we are at four months of clean time. Each thought, can be turned into a positive with Nate and his family. There are many hurdles this family will continue to go through. Nate takes his medication each day now and is learning how to work his day to day routine for him not his family. Stay in your health, stay in the moment.