Thursday, November 13, 2014

Eavesdropper

Out of state today working with some kids at their school. I went to the office, sign in, and have each kid come down and talk with me. The Ast. Principal, gave me this weird look, or I sensed some negative energy. My first kid came down, talked and did our session. The kid went back to his class and gave me a high five as he left. He then turned at the Ast. Principal, and wished her a good day. The next kid came down, and we began our session. It appeared I was talking louder (imagine that) or the kid was laughing harder! The kid went back to class. The Ast. Principal then called me into the office. She looked at me for a few seconds, did not say a thing. Then she asked me if she could ask me a personal question? I said, sure. She then stood up and said, "how do you do it?" I was going to answer, then she continues, "I have never seen those kids laugh, they are talking to you, and one wished me a good day, after I had him in detention in October". I then slowly said, I try to build the relationship. She then said, "no, you don't understand, I personally found them a psychologist and a life skills person. It did not work, we tried everything, nothing worked". I then slowly said, every helper has something new to offer. She, then apologized for eavesdropping. She asked if I take referrals from challenging kids. I almost laughed out loud. Every person has challenges, self included I said. Parents can have challenges, I know I do. The trick is to meet each person where they are right now, and begin to build the relationship with positive energy. Stay in your health, stay in the moment.

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Meaning

I was on a Skype with a new person. She asked me why I did not charge for phone calls. We talked on the phone for about 45 minuets. She then wanted to try a Skype session. Our program builds relationships I said. I am fully aware that other helpers, charge per phone call. Sometimes it can be $250.00 for one single call lasting an hour. I went on to explain that most of our clients and client's family members talk on the phone with me weekly, some daily. Every phone call is free. We did our Skype. At the end of session, I asked her how she felt. She replied with on word, meaning. Tod, I have talked with many therapists and counselors over the last few years. Each meeting with whomever, I felt like it was the biggest waste of time. They were all nice people and I'm sure they meant well, and I probably did not take in what I was suppose to. This Skype with you Tod, brought me a meaning of my life where it is today. It was my turn to talk. I looked at her through the monitor, and said that was a powerful message. Life is full of challenges, but I think there is a reason why self can work through the challenge and find the meaning of the challenge in the first place. She looked at me, and said, she was not one of those persons that wanted to figure out why she was experiencing the challenge at hand, but rather, focus on how awful her life was with one challenge after another. She vented more. I ended the session, by asking her one more question, what was the meaning of this Skype with me? She looked at me, and replied, I don't know yet, but that may be a positive thing, and I want to think about it more. It is strange she said, I am not upset about why I need to talk about my challenge, but I may be interested into finding the meaning. Stay in your health, stay in the moment.