Monday, January 4, 2016

What does Self-Balance-Higher Power-Fun really mean?

Our first blog of 2016! Today I want to provide more detail on our model, Self-Balance-Higher Power-Fun! This past weekend, many of you reached out. Addicts, parents of troubled souls, and non-addicts who were looking for some positive energy in their day to day lives. I developed this model thinking Self, would be the first step in learning how to like and love you again! This writer would spend hours if not days, beating himself up for his past, poor, behavior. I was stuck in the negative energy cycle, complied by the gambling addiction cycle. I decided to turn my life around, the first thought was to work on me! In order to accomplish this task, I needed to be honest with where I was, what I have done and how I was going to put all my energy into me this time around. I was fearful, but confident that if I took care of myself, I would be able to let the negative go, and turn it into a positive! I started with being mindful of how much energy I spent on things I could not control. Each thought I had about gambling, I was going to turn it into a positive. I began to journal my urges and cravings, and began to do something I never did before. I worked through the struggle, and did not make excuses of why I was struggling. I or Self, was being mindful of my current existence. I was not going to beat myself up from my past no more. I began to exercise every day, making the best of my situation. Each day I would, (still do today) rate my mood 1-10, and check in with myself. I began to get the negative out early, and start changing my attitude as I woke up. Then I would exercise and begin to feel better about me, Self! Once I began to take care of myself, it was time to Balance my day through my thoughts. I have the power to control my thoughts. This was a big affirmation for me. I know I can gamble, but I am choosing not to. Wow, this was just the opposite of all other gambling treatment and other forms of treatment for addiction. I have never been to a support group where the group said I could gamble! Right there, I began to think about what I was creating in my mind. There was no reason to be insidious or pathological about my behavior. I knew I could gamble, but I did not have to. I began to control the thought, and remember how much pain, mental exasperation, negative energy I caused Self, and others when I was in the gambling addiction cycle. I thought if I could balance my thoughts, control my thoughts, and have balance in my day, I would begin to like who I am. Balance was something that I did not have when I was gambling. Each day I began to create healthy balance, by taking care of Self, and keeping my self active. I decided I would control how much energy I would use when needed. My mind became my friend again. I started working on Self, fifteen years ago, and creating Balance in my day. I needed a Higher Power, that was greater then me. I needed something to believe in, that I felt connected to. Faith. A place where I could share anything I wanted to with this Higher Power. It was my time to heal, and grow. A Higher Power, can be anything you want. I tell every client, other mental health professionals, and every day people who utilize our model, that it is your Higher Power, you make the call. Find something that you want to believe in. A Higher Power can only help you through your journey. Things were coming together in my mind. I was working on Self. I started to Balance my thoughts and was able to create Balance in my life through journaling, exercise and working through struggle. My Higher Power, was working 24/7, giving me something to believe that was greater then me. Now I was able to have healthy Fun. Life is all about having Fun. Gambling may have started out as Fun, but it was not healthy, and the fun was gone. I could have Fun without gambling. This was huge! Fun was taking care of myself, not having to worry about gambling. I could do new things, build new interpersonal relationships. I was able to utilize my mind, and stay in my health. I still struggle, but life was Fun again. Goal's were attainable, and I began to see the positives. Wellness began. Each day I would find something Fun to do for me. Each day was a gift, I was not going to beat myself up anymore. I had and have the power to control the thought. Our model is something that can used for everyone. You do not have to be an addict to get something from it. Staying in the moment is a universal affirmation that can help you! Life is better when you are able to like yourself and love who you are at this second. Each day you may struggle, but you have the power to work on Self, control the thought as you are able to Balance the urges, cravings, and negative energy. A Higher Power will only help guide you through fear, and positive energy. The Fun starts when you are able to take ownership in your life, and work the program for you. Adding hobbies, meeting new people, developing healthy interpersonal relationships, and trying new things! If you are a addict you begin to lose the urges and cravings from your mind. They still may be there, but you know you can gamble, purge, drink, use drugs, have unhealthy sexual behavior and game. But, you are choosing not to! Control the thought. Stay in your health, stay in the moment. Self-Balance-Higher Power-Fun