Self and independence

When I look around and peer into my current and past friend's interpersonal relationships I see two things. One they may be solo, two, being solo appears to be the best thing for their self right now. We all go through the up's and down's of relationships. Sometimes we experience healthy relationships, other's are not so healthy for self. This helper believes that everything happens for a reason. But, that reason will start with self. Trying to ascertain why relationships work, or why they do not is not the purpose of this discourse. The premise is to understand that self, can function alone, and still be independent. I hear often from friends who are single now, that being alone was the best independence that their self needed at this time in their life. This writer has witnessed that some of my friends become stronger in their own skin and latch on to their own higher power. Self begins to go into what I like to call,  "survival mode" Now, the term survival may seem a little drastic, but it seems to challenge that person in a positive way. This survival mode will not always show positive emotions, we are human. But, self is forced to focus on regaining independence for self, without the assistance of the other person in that past relationship. Financial concerns are present. Housing concerns may be another challenge. Finding a new job or old job that you once had. Going solo will create a brand new world for some. Brand new is the key. You will be amazed how strong you are. Take this opportunity and reward self with your independence. It may be a struggle at times, but it's a healthy struggle. Find your balance, utilize the energy that only you have. Embrace self with positive thinking and self autonomy. Find a new routine that will allow you to have fun! Stay in your health, stay in the moment.